DEALING WITH STRESS

Take control of your stresses. Your feeling of well being will improve..

Though we are all different in the amount if stress we can handle, we can all reach the saturation point to where we want to explode. That explosion may come from a simple question by a fellow worker, or it may be in packing just one more lunch, but it finally comes when the build-up of the day’s little stresses become gigantic ones.In total frustration, some of us turn to alcohol or drugs, and they give us immeasurable stress that no longer can be handled alone. Stress and anger management classes go a long way into helping solve our problems, but sooner or later we are left to face them alone, though better prepared.

If you have been practicing meditation skills or yoga, you will already be ahead of the stressful encounters. By taking a few minutes several times a day to take several deep breaths. This brief respite will give you time to clear all the clutter from your mind and allow a moment of relaxation from the physical and mental pain that has brought you to this point. Once again you can become centered in the knowledge that you can escape the grip of stress for a few satisfying moments. Then you will be able to continue whatever you were doing with a clear head and less physical angst.

Some stress is natural and it is usually work related about your performance or getting ahead. Having said that, it doesn’t erase the tightness in your in neck, or the hunch in your shoulders, or the pain in your gut.

In fact stress can be responsible for your fights with loved ones, and there are lots of physical symptoms associated with stress:

Headaches, asthma, bad back, diarrhea, rapid heart beat, high blood pressure, elevated blood sugar, grinding teeth, stuttering, dry mouth , allergy attacks, chest pain. I could go on…

Money and work seem to be the greatest causes of stress.  We should try to define what it is that is responsible for our stress.  Don’t let yourself stress about things you have no control of, like noisy kids in your neighborhood, or traffic patterns that create more congestion. Try to change the  things that you can and shrug off those that you can’t.

Several ways to make your life less stressful are:

Get out and exercise, especially, in the fresh air and sunshine.

Share your feelings with others. It’s good to know you may be having the same stresses bother you as your co-worker and together you can to do something to alleviate t hem.

Learn to meditate or practice yoga or tai chi. Being around more relaxed individuals my help you find your center.

Watch something entertaining. Happy or funny things may be just what you need to put your stresses in the proper light.

Here are some of the reference sites I used:

https://www.knowzo.com/family/family-tips/5-ways-to-de-stress-the-family-after-a-long-day/

https://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/stress-management/physical-effects-of-stress.htm?utm_medium=cpc&srch_tag=4dqiqhpd2xohjnw4xysktmx4itpr76

COPING AND STRESS

“Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Keep in mind that no one escapes ‘coping,’ but what you choose to do about it is entirely in your hands.

Life deals us it’s resistance to who we are, or what we think we want at the moment.

As babies, if we are hungry, we learn to wait until food arrives, and it begins, the pattern of learning to cope until we get the desired effect. Oh, we complain, sometimes loudly, until that need is met. By and large, it becomes a way of life, always wanting something beyond our reach. For some, it is learning to speak with a lisp, or being satisfied with curly hair when you envy straight, or recognizing you aren’t intelligent, but you are smart in the commonplace.

Growing up often challenges our coping with what life has dealt us. Our goals keep changing with our needs at the moment, but  we all have goals, and that’s a good thing. It’s how we get there that makes us constantly cope.

As adults we become more complacent, having studied or worked to whatever we feel is our lot in life. At that point we begin to realize that we are still coping. It may be with an unsatisfactory job, or an unhappy marriage, or the challenge of raising children, but the need to cope is still there.

It shows itself in day to day problems: making ends meet, saying the right words at the right moment, meeting all our responsibilities. On a higher plane there is the climate change, the threat of war, the flu epidemic, the violence that afflicts our nation.

There are many places we learn to cope, some big and some small. Somewhere in the scheme of things there comes the recognition that everyone, no matter how rich or poor, how educated or uninformed we are, we always remain coping, trying to make the best of the life we are given. Someone once said, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” It is a truth that we need to live by. Change what you can and COPE with the rest in your own comfort zone, knowing some problems don’t go away, but even they, often diminish with time.

Stress is a big factor in the coping mechanism It often manifests itself in shoulders held tight and high, in dryness of the mouth and throat, in  stomach cramps, and a myriad other symptoms that feel real to us, but never seem to present themselves as other than annoying complaints.  There are different ways to reduce this type of stress. Meditation often helps, as does getting away from the source of your problem with a few minutes of exercise each day, or beginning some new creativity such as gardening, painting, or playing or listening to music. You may have to just take a five minute walk, or sit in the fresh air and sunshine for  few minutes to break the chain of coping, and to begin to free yourself from its grip. Take those few moments to change your life. Remember, you are worth it.